... okKatie ...

I’ve always subscribed to the idea that when you “knew” you were attracted to someone you just “knew”. There was no asking yourself how you felt about him/her, just BOOM - attraction. Some contend that once you get to know the person the attraction grows and I can see how that is true, but in this newfangled world of online dating, text messages, and emails, how do we ever really feel that spark?

I promise I’m not trying to be Carrie Bradshaw’s drunker, Asian exchange student, but FOR SERIOUS, when do you know to fish or cut bait?

I’ve been texting with a lovely dude, but I’m not like bowled over or dying to get his next text.  Obviously there was something about him that made me want to talk to him, but I don’t have “that” feeling. We’re making plans to get drinks and I’m game for meeting someone new (in a public place) and alcohol, so why not. Because, we all know you can’t spell free drink without “showing up”. Kidding. Kind of. 

I know, it’s one meeting, not a marriage proposal. Perhaps I need a paradigm shift in how I look at these meetings: less about sparks and more about personality. But then I say to myself, “That’s bullshit. I’m not on OKC to meet friends, I’ve got a barrel of friends and quite frankly could cut a few - yes, you.” 

Anyway, if any of you Internetz people know how to identify sparks, again, not of the alcoholic variety, you just let me know.

 

(So tasty.)